The Sex Talk Midlife Women Were Never Given

Hello Warriors!

Let’s be honest: no one prepared us for what happens to our sex lives in midlife. The dryness. The fatigue. The “I love my partner but… ugh.” The quiet worry that maybe something is wrong with us.

This week’s episode of The Suburban Warrior Podcast blew that story wide open.

I sat down with Susan Bratton—intimacy expert to millions, bestselling author, and unapologetic champion of women’s pleasure—for one of the most candid, educational, and empowering conversations we’ve ever had.

Susan’s message is bold and deeply reassuring:
👉 Most women don’t have low libido.
👉 They have low blood flow, low hormones, low education, and years of unsatisfying sex.
👉 And all of that is fixable.

This wasn’t about being “sexier” for someone else. This was about agency, longevity, health, and joy—and why intimacy belongs on the same priority list as sleep, nutrition, and movement.

If you’re in your 40s, 50s, or beyond and wondering if great sex is behind you, Susan would lovingly say: Absolutely not.

The Power List: 7 Things We Learned from Susan Bratton

1. There’s (Probably) Nothing Wrong With You
Susan challenges the idea that midlife women are “broken.” Most libido issues aren’t psychological—they’re physiological: hormone loss, poor blood flow, tissue atrophy, exhaustion, and decades of rushed, male-centered sex. Desire returns when the body is supported properly.

2. Blood Flow Is the Foundation of Female Pleasure
Lubrication, arousal, and orgasm all depend on blood flow to the pelvic bowl. As estrogen declines, tissue thins and dries. Solutions like topical estrogen, nitric oxide support, red-light therapy, and acoustic wave treatments can rebuild tissue and sensitivity.

3. Women Have Way More Pleasure Anatomy Than We Were Taught
The clitoris isn’t a “button”—it’s a large internal structure with arms, legs, and multiple erectile tissue chambers that wrap around the vagina. Most women have never experienced full arousal because they were never given enough time or the right stimulation.

4. Orgasms Are Learned Skills, Not Genetic Gifts
Susan describes orgasm as an operating system—and every woman has the same one. With time, the right techniques, and varied stimulation, women can expand from one type of orgasm to many. Penetration-only orgasms are possible for most women—but only after sufficient arousal and training.

5. Midlife Sex Gets Better When We Stop Rushing
Women have slow arousal physiology. We need 20–30 minutes (sometimes more) to fully warm up. When foreplay is treated as optional and intercourse as the “main event,” pleasure collapses. When everything is sex, everything improves.

6. Sex Tech Is Not a Threat—It’s a Tool
Vibrators, air stimulators, oscillators, and internal wands don’t replace partners—they expand responsiveness. By increasing blood flow and nerve activation, they make partnered sex better, not worse. Susan calls this “orgasmic cross-training.”

7. Intimacy Is a Longevity Practice
Susan names intimacy as the fourth pillar of longevity (alongside sleep, nutrition, and movement). Regular orgasms improve immune function, brain health, mood, sleep quality, and self-esteem. Pleasure isn’t frivolous—it’s medicine.

The Big Takeaway

Midlife isn’t the end of your sex life.
For many women, it’s the beginning of the best chapter yet.

But it requires education, curiosity, and the courage to prioritize yourself.

As Susan so powerfully reminded us:

And honestly? That’s the kind of future I want for every Warrior reading this.

Turning Insight into Action

Throughout the conversation, Susan generously named the specific tools, therapies, products, and programs she personally recommends—making it easy for all of us to turn insight into action.

Vaginal vitality serum: www.getglowbelow.com 
Flow nitric oxide booster: www.getflowfree.com 
vFit red light therapy device: www.vaginadevice.com 
GAINSWave non-invasive regenerative therapy: https://gainswave.com/ 
Foria products: www.pleasureprotocol.com 
Susan’s website: www.drivedesire.com 
Sign up for Susan’s sex tips newsletter at www.betterlover.com

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Ready to go from Confusion to Clarity?

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Ready to Warrior Up!

Listen to the Full Episode: Suburban Warrior podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts.

Thank you for reading—and remember, knowledge is power! If you’re experiencing symptoms, don’t ignore them. There is help (and hope) out there. Stay tuned for our next newsletter to keep transforming your mindset and rocking your inner warrior!